Usapang Pag-ibig (Love Talk)

Isang makabagbag damdaming liham kasaysayan nanaman ang ating natangap sa araw na ito. Itago na lng natin sya sa pangalang Lady Blue. I met her only through net and never expect that she will share her story with me.

She felt really bad and asked me if it’s ok to have a talk. As usual, to have something to write on my column, I tried to talk to her… Joke!!! I told her if it’s ok for her to share her sentiments with me, I’m willing to listen.

I asked her kung bakit siya malungkot. She then replied that she and her boyfriend agreed that their going to chat tonight but her bf did not show up. She even bought new webcam for her bf to see her. I told her to just try to understand. Her bf might have some emergency. Better talk to him the reason behind. To cheer her up and to see her, I asked her to put on her cam so not to waste the time she spent in buying her new cam.

And so we had a c2c chat (ang pangit pakingan.. hahaha) anyway, so our serious talk began. I learned that this was her first time to have a relationship, (xempre, wla pa kaya kami 1month magkakilala and through net lang). As I was saying, she never had bf/gf relationship before 'coz she found herself difficult to trust others. Now she's taking the chance to trust and have her first boyfriend. But still something bothers her "Is my boyfriend serious with me? I am already giving my full trust to him but I'm afraid that one day I will learn that he is not serious with our relationship."

"Loving someone is taking risk, it is a game of chance. Give your full trust to the person but Love him as what you think how he wants you to love him."

We are oblige to give our full trust to the person we love, but we cannot dictate how will our partner suppose to return that trust. In a relationship, only the extremities of trust is present, there is no inbetween only a 100% or a 0% trust. We cannot tell the person that we trust him or her 50%. It shows that there is a doubt and you really not trust the person.

In loving, we cannot dictate our partner how he or she will commit themselves to us, that's selfishness.

Falling out of love in one time or another is part of a relationship. It depends to the couple on how are they going to handle the situation.

Take risk to love. But don't demand too much. (nakakasakal yun...)

I want to quote my Philisophy of Man Professor during my seminary years. "To know that you are ready to love others, you have to assess how you love yourself. You must love yourself first fully and when this love overflows, that's the time you are ready to share it with others..."


Lady Blue, thanks for sharing with me your story and hope that you learned something from our short talk. Hope to chat with you again sooner to know and learn more from each other...